Valentines Day. A day of love, comfort and happiness – whether you’re appreciating your partner, or simply your family or friends.
But for some people, even Valentines Day can feel scary. This is often something that is not immediately obvious for non-allergy sufferers, and even some who are, but kissing can be dangerous!
For me, this is one of the many saddening aspects of having an allergy, where even an expression of love and joy isn’t without fear and life-threatening danger. The cross-contamination if your partner eats an allergen followed by you kissing them will result in an allergic reaction. It categorically will if you have a top severity allergy. Therefore allergy-sufferers need to be really careful and meticulous to ensure nothing tragic happens.
Now, obviously, this is easier said than done. Asking a really hot guy you meet on a night out whether or not he’s eaten a nut today is pretty much the definition of a mood-killer (believe me, I know!), but the question NEEDS TO BE ASKED! But there are ways to get around this conversation, or at least to make it less awkward. Something I have learned since being away at university is that you need to try and get your allergy into the conversation as soon as possible, otherwise the people you meet won’t have any idea about your allergy – and they need to in case the worst happens. Doing this will also ease potentially awkward conversations in the future, as if your significant other (or a random guy you meet in a club) knows you have an allergy and how serious it is, they will understand and it won’t be so embarrassing. It may feel like the last thing you want to do if you really like somebody, but as my mum always says, if they judge you for it then they’re not for you. Some arrogant bastard’s opinions or love of nuttela is not worth your life!! If they really want to be with you, they should hopefully respect this, and will be willing to make the necessary sacrifices to make you feel happy, comfortable and (most importantly) safe.
The Anaphylaxis Campaign has advice on staying safe when kissing, on Valentine’s Day or any other day – which I will pop a link to at the bottom.
I know it is always said that we should put other people first, but when it comes to your life and your safety, don’t take you for granted! Stay safe and loved-up!